I told Chris that for my first blog post, I was going to write about why I want to adopt. His response: “boring.” Good start.
Maybe he has a point. But while it may not be the most inspired topic, we all must start somewhere…
as a woman, that there is nothing more amazing than becoming a mother. I’m in a place in my life in which friends around me are having children left and right. When it’s not entirely overwhelming (which let’s be honest, it often is), it’s incredibly empowering to watch women I love become mothers I respect. I cannot wait to join them.
as a partner and teammate, that the most wonderful thing Chris and I can do together is to raise a tiny little being into a kind, good, and responsible member of society. Every day, I see traces of my mother and my father in the things that I think; things that I believe; and ultimately, things that I do. My parents are in all my actions, and to know that Chris and I can continue that is nothing short of amazing.
as a person, that we are collectively responsible for all children born into the world today. Every child is in some way one of ‘our’ children. During a time in which it feels difficult to agree on much of anything, there’s a reason that we can all get behind our kids. But to be accountable for children writ large is different than to raise one. And by raising a child whose birth mother isn’t lucky enough to be able to, Chris and I can do our miniscule part to make a difference in this beautiful, broken world.
For those of you who are parents (or for those who aren’t), anything I write here may sound young and naïve to you. Should I ever read back on this in the future, I will most certainly agree. Yet we all make decisions based on the relevant experiences, gut desires, and best available information we have at any given point. And right now, this is where I stand.
I like the idea of ending these posts with a quote or something I’ve read and loved—because for everything I have to say, there’s generally always someone who has said it better. I promise I won’t make them cheesy (no one needs another inspirational poster or Pinterest-inspired sign). Just, resonant with me. For today, I’ll close with an oldie but goodie from Shel Silverstein:
The Voice There is a voice inside of you That whispers all day long “I feel that this is right for me, I know that this is wrong.” No teacher, preacher, parent, friend Or wise man can decide What’s right for you—just listen to The voice that speaks inside.